Most of us move through our relationships believing that our reactions are just… our reactions. “I just get anxious.”“I don’t like conflict.”“I hate being vulnerable.”“I need space.” But underneath all of those behaviors is something deeply human, wired into us long before we learned how to speak, negotiate, or pretend we “don’t care” when we actually do. That something is attachment —our built-in system for connection, safety, and belonging. And here’s the truth no one tells

When couples come to counseling, the conversation almost always lands here eventually: “We’re not having sex enough.” “We’re not having...

Sometimes it feels like there are only two types of people in the world: those who understand us… and those who clearly woke up in the...

Intro: Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of sitting with couples in all kinds of emotional spaces—hurting, hopeful, angry,...

Listening with Love When I sit with couples in the therapy room, one of their most transformative moments often starts with a very simple...

Discover why emotional safety is the foundation of all love languages. Learn how to identify emotional disconnection in your relationship and start building deeper trust, connection, and healing today.

Discover why emotional closeness isn't "neediness"—it's a healthy sign of love and connection. Learn how to respond with care and build a stronger relationship.

What Really Holds a Relationship Together? It's not date nights, shared hobbies, or even how well you communicate—though those all help...

Yes, All Couples Fight—But Not All Grow From It YES! It's true that all couples fight, but some couples fight more than others, and not...

That's not a bad stab at a definition, but I think there's more to it than that--something that includes safety, security, and a deep shared

Introduction There are a number of things I hear consistently from my clients. One of the most common is hearing about my clients’ love...

Introduction I learn a lot from my clients, and I truly love learning. One thing I’ve learned is that most people don’t actually know...